What can a woman say if she wants him back?

I'm sorry but if he is ignoring you it means it is over for him. If you don't like his drinking, trust issues, anger and bitterness, and who in their mind would, why do you want to see him again anyway. He's doing you a favor by not getting back together and he knows he's not going to change so why put you through it. There are plenty of nice guys out there who will treat you better. Just have patience and good luck.